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Roles and challenges for the host-attractor / host-on-the-rim
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I’ve met 12 fabulous new people over the course of the last several months in an online learning environment. We have gathered around a host-attractor, in the host-attractor pattern, and we would not have met if we were not attracted to our teacher and his offering. As a host-attractor, our tea...
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Host-attractor / host-on-the-rim
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How much of me do I insert while hosting a community in conversation with itself? In sitting with this question for years, I’ve noticed two patterns in which hosts and community relate to each other: the host-attractor and the host-on-the-rim. These two patterns are distinct in their energetic ...
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A castle’s not made for everyone – is a city?
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After a delectable Turkish meal in Inverness Scotland, I found myself contemplating eras of old: a visit to 4000-year-old Bronze Age Corrimony Cairn, the ruins of medieval Urquart Castle and a boat ride on Loch Ness. While no humans today know why the cairn has 11 standing stones, rather than 1...
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Sovereignty is necessarily disruptive
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I watched two men well into their 60s get into a physical fight at the ski hill yesterday. I’d taken a break to sit in the sunshine and give my knee a moment to tell me if skiing was a good or bad thing to be doing. I watched a family of three ski up … Continue reading Sovereignty is nece...
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7 tips for generative check ins
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The generative quality of a check in can be eroded when the holding space we create for ourselves is weakened or collapsed. Two things do this: fear of empty space and discomfort in listening. Below are 6 tips to amplify the generative quality of a check in. (Of course these 2 things affect mor...
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Welcoming outsiders
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At a conference welcome reception last fall in Canada, I stepped in to join a conversation in progress. The room was full of people I did not know, so I chose a group where there was one person I had met a few hours ago, and three others new to me. I did not interject … Continue reading W...
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The unspoken
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They were the unheard holding the unspoken the taboo and they told you so what do you do?   The unspoken just because unspoken does not leave the room it remains unsaid so what do you do?   What do you do with what is both known and unknown not wanted and wanted?   Do … Con...
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Colonial blind spot
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2018 begins with a contemplation of the settler / colonizer story in me and my European cultural lineage on the Canadian Prairies. My understanding of this story and its implications has been growing over many years, most recently with a trip to Germany last fall. It was one of those trips wher...
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Care out in the open
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In cities we each pursue our passions in diverse work, and in doing so we end up looking after each other. Laura looks after our teeth. Arundeep moves gravel to construction sites. Rob looks after teaching our kids. Thor looks after our bodies. Vicki helps me pay for my groceries. Nancy looks a...
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Harm happens, intended or not
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Not intending to cause harm does not mean that harm is not caused. For those of us causing harm, we use this ‘lack of intention’ as a defence mechanism, to distance ourselves from the discomfort of knowing that we did cause harm. It’s a defence mechanism that makes learning un...
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